Trauma is our reaction after we experience a distressing event or many big events. A traumatic event is something that happens that is very scary or shocking. We all will be affected differently by a traumatic event. What may affect your friend, may not affect you.
What are some examples of trauma?
- Being abused or treated very badly
- Seeing or being a victim of domestic abuse
- A family member or someone you are close to dying
- A car crash
- Being around someone who is scary or angry
- Being bullied
- Being sick or getting treatment if you are unwell
How does it make us feel?
We may experience a range of different symptoms, such as:
- Flashbacks
- Nightmares
- Feeling worried or ‘on edge’
- Avoiding talking about the experience or related situations
- Difficulty focusing
- Low self-esteem, feeling guilty, blaming yourself
- Changing emotions – becoming angry easily, like crying, or numb (not feeling many emotions)
Ways to feel better:
- Remind yourself that you are okay and safe – the traumatic event is over
- Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling, but only if you want to
- Sleep well and eat healthily
- Get back into your normal routine as soon as you can
- Do the things you enjoy – meet up with friends, play a fun sport, have fun!
- If you have flashbacks, distract yourself by focusing on what’s around you
It is normal to find things difficult after a traumatic event. Talk to your parents, teacher, GP, or someone else you trust if you are finding things difficult.
Who to contact
If you want to talk to someone confidentially, any time of the day:
Childline
- Telephone: 0800 1111
Samaritans
- Telephone: 116 123
Useful resources
Childline
Samaritans
YoungMinds – Trauma and Mental Health | Guide For Parents
NHS – Trauma and adverse child experiences
Videos
Adverse Childhood Experiences
Deep Breathing Exercise
Podcasts
Listen to our Youth Mental Health podcasts.